Get the Life You Want

Have you ever looked around at your life and wondered, "Is this it?" After decades of meeting expectations—building careers, raising families, and checking society's boxes—many ambitious women over 50 find themselves at a crossroads. You've lived the life you thought you were supposed to have, but now you're ready for something more.

This isn't about disappointment with past achievements. It's about recognizing that you still have time—potentially vibrant years that deserve to be lived with intention and joy, not merely survived or filled with activities that no longer serve your evolving spirit.

The Expectation Trap

For years, perhaps decades, you've followed a script. Career advancement, family responsibilities, community obligations—all worthy pursuits that may have brought genuine fulfillment. Yet for many women, these paths were chosen from a limited menu of options deemed appropriate or practical.

Now, as you transition out of established careers or find yourself with an empty nest, there's a daunting freedom that can feel both exhilarating and terrifying. The safety nets of defined roles and responsibilities are giving way to open possibilities—a canvas that's suddenly, sometimes startlingly, blank.

The Dream Amnesia Phenomenon

One of the most profound challenges for women over 50 isn't external but internal—many have forgotten how to dream. After years of pragmatic decision-making and putting others first, the muscle of imagination atrophies. When asked what they truly want, many accomplished women struggle to articulate desires beyond vague notions of "happiness" or "fulfillment."

This dream amnesia isn't mere indecision—it's a disconnection from the authentic self that knows exactly what brings joy, purpose, and excitement. Reconnecting with this knowing is perhaps the most crucial step in designing your next chapter.

As we align with the Core 4 Principles, particularly Purpose, we remember that we aren't becoming something new but rather allowing ourselves to fully emerge—blossoming into the completeness of who we've always been.

Breaking the Time Paralysis

Time awareness takes on new dimensions after 50. There's an acute recognition of both its preciousness and its passing. This awareness can either catalyze bold action or trigger paralysis.

Many women find themselves caught in a holding pattern, neither fully engaged with their current reality nor actively creating something new. They recognize the need for change but feel frozen by uncertainty about where to begin.

This isn't merely about productive use of time—it's about the quality of presence and intention we bring to our remaining years. The Core 4 principle of Passion reminds us that when we operate from a place of wholeness rather than void-filling, time expands with possibility rather than constricts with pressure.

The Clarity Pathway

Getting the life you want begins with crystal clarity about what that life actually looks like. Not someone else's version of success, not a recycled dream from decades ago, but an authentic vision aligned with who you are now.

This clarity doesn't typically arrive in a thunderbolt moment of inspiration. It emerges gradually through deliberate exploration, reflection, and sometimes, strategic elimination of what no longer serves.

The Core 4 principle of Purpose teaches us that we are here by divine design—not to fulfill others' expectations but to express our unique gifts. This understanding becomes the north star that guides decisions large and small as we redesign our lives.

From Stuckness to Flow

The sensation of being stuck—aware of dissatisfaction yet unable to move forward—is perhaps the most common experience shared by women in this life stage. This stuckness often masquerades as external circumstances when it's actually an internal state of disconnection.

Moving from stuckness to flow requires reconnecting with your innate wisdom, the part of you that has always known what brings true fulfillment. As you align with this wisdom, the Core 4 principle of Prosperity naturally follows, attracting the resources and opportunities needed to create your ideal life.

This prosperity isn't limited to financial abundance (though that may be part of it). It encompasses rich experiences, meaningful connections, vibrant health, and the deep satisfaction of living in alignment with your authentic self.

Living in Your Power

The ultimate expression of getting the life you want comes through embracing the fourth Core 4 principle: Power. This isn't power over others but the fierce confidence that emerges from living with purpose, passion, and prosperity.

When you know who you are, what you want, and why you're here, indecision falls away. The opinions of others lose their grip. Time transforms from enemy to ally as you move through your days with intention rather than reaction.

This power becomes your natural state—not something you need to force or prove, but simply the authentic expression of a woman who has reclaimed her life and lives it on her own terms.

The Essential Question

As you contemplate this next chapter, consider this: If you removed all limitations—financial concerns, others' expectations, fears of failure or judgment—what would you create? Who would you be? How would you spend your precious time?

The answer to these questions contains the seed of the life you truly want. And the beautiful truth is that at this stage of life, you have all you need to nurture that seed into full, glorious bloom.

Your decades of experience, wisdom, and resilience are not just qualifications for the life you've lived—they're the perfect foundation for the life you're about to create. The question isn't whether you can have the life you want after 50; it's whether you'll give yourself permission to claim it.

The time for hesitation is over. The time for living—fully, joyfully, authentically—is now.

About the Author

Dr. Diva Verdun, the Fierce Factor Expert and #1 transformative architect on aging, empowers women over 50 to seize their destiny and Age with Power™. Through her signature F.I.R.E.™ methodology and Fenom University, she ignites women's fierce potential to live life on their terms. Follow her on Facebook or Linkedin.