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Are You Wasting Your Life Waiting? It's Time to Seize Your Destiny
Stop Waiting, Start Living: Seizing Your Destiny After 50
Dr. Diva Verdun
October 08, 2024
 Dr. Diva Verdun - The Fierce Factor Expert | At 64 years young, I find myself at the threshold of an exhilarating new chapter - one I wish I had begun writing decades ago. For far too long, I was ensnared in a web of waiting: waiting to be discovered, waiting for the perfect moment, waiting for someone else to validate my dreams and make them a reality. Today, I want to share my story not out of regret, but with a burning desire to help other women, especially those over 50, sidestep the pitfalls I encountered to seize their own destinies and Age with Power. |
As I embark on this journey to help women over 50 avoid the traps I fell into, I'm filled with a sense of purpose and urgency. My message is simple yet powerful: it's never too late to pursue your dreams and create the life you want. There are still blank pages of your life story and you get the opportunity to rewrite your script on aging by leaning into this new season of life.
Waiting is a Trap that Keeps You Stuck
"The tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we wait so long to begin it."
Many of us unknowingly fall into the trap of waiting - a passive state that can consume years of our lives. We wait for God to show us a sign, for a partner to complete us, for an apology to heal old wounds, or for that elusive moment when we'll finally feel "ready" to take the leap.
I spent countless years waiting to be discovered, hoping someone would recognize my latent potential and pave the way for my success. I waited for external validation, for someone to tell me I was good enough, smart enough, or talented enough to pursue my ambitions. |  |
This waiting game manifested in various ways throughout my life. During the COVID-19 pandemic, when the world seemed to pause, I found myself with an abundance of time - a precious resource I had always claimed to lack. Yet, even then, I remained paralyzed by fear and self-doubt. Ideas would spark in my mind, bright and promising, but imposter syndrome quickly doused their flame. I was frozen in procrastination, waiting for a sign or a savior that never came. I was so stuck!
The allure of reverting to familiar habits and patterns, despite their hindrance to our advancement, is why it's so easy to drift back into complacency. The truth is, I was operating from an unconscious program of drifting and driving while wishing for a better outcome. This default mechanism of drifting is something that over 98% of the population succumb to when things get hard or they feel out of alignment with their dreams, and so did I.
The Turning Point
“It's never too late to be what you might have been."
 | It wasn't until I reached my 60s that I had a profound realization: all that waiting had cost me precious time. Time I could have spent building my dreams, honing my skills, and making a difference in the world. This epiphany became my turning point, a moment of clarity that shook me to my core. |
Now, at 64, I'm finally focusing on my dreams with laser-like intensity. I'm actively creating the lifestyle I want, no longer waiting for it to magically appear. I'm manifesting a career path as a motivational speaker - a path I've had the skills to walk all along, but never dared to step onto. The difference? I've stopped waiting and started doing.
This shift didn't happen overnight. It required a conscious decision to stop drifting and start driving. I had to confront my fears, acknowledge my self-imposed limitations, and make a commitment to myself that no matter how uncomfortable or challenging it might be, I would take action every single day towards my goals.
Lessons Learned
"Experience is not what happens to you; it's what you do with what happens to you.”
Looking back, I realize that my life hasn't been a crystal stair, nor has it been easy. But the challenges weren't what held me back - it was my response to them. I don't regret the choices that led me here; each experience, each setback, and each moment of doubt has contributed to the wisdom I now possess.
What I've learned, and what I want to share with every woman over 50, is that perfection is the enemy of progress. It's better to take imperfect action than to wait for perfect conditions. Even when I feel scared or unprepared, I'm pushing forward, embracing the "unfinished" and "ragged" aspects of my journey. These imperfections are not flaws, but rather the unique brushstrokes that make the canvas of our lives beautiful and authentic.
I've also learned the importance of self-reliance. While support from others is valuable, waiting for someone else to make us happy or fulfill our dreams is a recipe for disappointment. The power to change our lives lies within us, and it's our responsibility to harness it.
Moving Forward
"The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now."
Today, I'm channeling my experiences and newfound energy into helping women over 50 avoid the pitfalls I encountered. I'm committed to sharing the wisdom I've gained, not from a place of regret, but from a place of empowerment and hope.
Here's what I want every woman to know and embrace:
Embrace your age and experience: Your years are an asset, not a liability. The wisdom you've accumulated is invaluable. Use it to fuel your dreams and guide your decisions.
Take ownership of your decisions: Acknowledge past choices without judgment. They are not weights to hold you down, but stepping stones to propel you forward. Own your story - all of it.
Act despite fear: Feel the fear and do it anyway. Imperfect action beats perfect inaction every time. Start before you feel ready - readiness is often a myth that keeps us stuck.
Cultivate self-reliance: While support is valuable, your primary source of motivation should come from within. Don't wait for permission or validation from others to pursue your dreams.
Keep learning and growing: It's never too late to acquire new skills or pursue new passions. Embrace a growth mindset and remain curious about life and its possibilities.
Prioritize your dreams: Your dreams matter. They are not selfish or frivolous. Give them the time and attention they deserve.
Connect with like-minded women: Surround yourself with other women who are also committed to growth and self-actualization. Their energy will inspire and motivate you as you Age with Power together.
Ladies, it's time to stop waiting and start living. Whether you're 50, 60, 70, or beyond, you have the power to shape your destiny. Your experiences have given you wisdom and most of all the permission you crave; now it's time to pair that wisdom with action.
In Closing
“Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot, but make it hot by striking."
Remember, the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now. Don't waste another moment waiting for your life to begin or for someone else to give you permission to thrive. Seize this chapter of your life and write it exactly as you want it to be.
The world is waiting for what only you can offer - your unique voice, your experiences, your dreams. It's time to answer that call. Let's age with power, owning all our experiences and using them as fuel to achieve the phenomenal life we desire.
The time for waiting is over. Your time to thrive is now.
So, I challenge you:
What dream will you start pursuing today?
What action, no matter how small, will you take right now to move closer to the life you want?
Feel free to share your commitment to yourself in the comments so we can all share in holding each other accountable and celebrate our wins together.
The choice is yours, and the possibilities are endless. Let's embrace this journey together, supporting each other as we step boldly into our power and purpose.
Let’s Age with Power Together! 💪
Diva
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